If you came across Ela’s page you wouldn’t know that she has a day to day struggle.
She is recognised for her amazing designs of Ela & Jackson and has an infectious presence in the way she is influencing on Instagram with her Instagram hacks , powerful content and her amazing YouTube.
She has been such an inspiration to me on Instagram so when we were chatting one day and she was trying to explain something to me I was trying to do , I couldn’t quite grasp it and said to her “sorry I’m dyslexic”.
To my surprise, she told me she was dyslexic to. We then got chatting about our struggles and how both of us only found out as adults that we were dyslexic. Mine through finding out my son was and her, with her struggles as a secretary.
To be honest, being able to talk to someone about this and talk of our struggles in our spelling, grammar and having been put down because of our grammar , our spelling or the way we write is incorrect – can be frustrating!
What got me excited was being able to write about this and being dyslexic does not mean you have to stop believing in your dreams because of something that can’t be fixed. It’s the task of reading through it over and over again so we are able to make sure it makes sense.
When someone has dyslexia their brain is wired to handle information differently. It can take longer to process and make reading and writing more difficult. Dyslexia DOES NOT make a person dumb or lazy and there are many who have it and have been very successfully in all fields.
Dyslexia isn’t something we can fix , but we have figured out how to work around it we’re we struggle and embrace it.
If anything it has made us both more determined in what we do and if there’s a few spelling or grammar mistakes along the way it doesn’t define who we are and stop us being passionate in everything we do.The magical thing about being dyslexic is our creative minds. So we both wanted to inspire you to live your dreams no matter what your struggles.
Jennifer Aniston was in her 20’s when she found out that she was dyslexic. She says that finding out explained why it was so hard for her to read back in school and why she chose the role of class clown over teachers pet. She went on to talk about how she felt all her childhood trauma, tragedies and dramas were explained.
As a mother of a child who is dyslexic I see the daily struggles, how they hate being different and how it makes things harder. If you’re a mother of someone who is dyslexic or think your child is like myself and Ela who didn’t get this extra help at school, I can reassure there is so much that can be done to help your children now.
Today is about speaking out, helping people understand our struggles and for people who are struggling with it, you’re not alone. Embrace your special gift no matter the struggles.
These are a few questions I asked Ela about her dyslexia:
1. What advice would you give to someone with dyslexia?
Take your time to read things, it’s ok to be a slower reader. But the sooner you understand what the problem is, the easier it is to help yourself improve. Also get Grammarly!
2. What do you find the biggest struggle?
Spelling and then editing what I write. I don’t see the mistakes that I make unless I read it several times. When I was in primary school my parents put me in an after school program called Kumon to try to help me with this. But it actually did the opposite. It was a place where you would go to improve your spelling and grammar, but everything was timed. So that pressure of them timing how long it took you to do everything didn’t work for me.
3. I’m interested in how you taught yourself about dressmaking ?
My mum taught me the basic, she is an incurable sewer and dress maker (just for fun), but the harder sewing machines I would watch YouTube videos and read blog posts and then just practice. It’s never pretty at first but like anything the more you practice the better you get.
4. What do you find interesting about being dyslexic.
I think it makes you think a little differently because you don’t see things or learn the way others do. I think this is what gives me writers block a lot of the time, but once you find your groove there is no stopping you.
5. Does it make you feel different?
When I first found out it did, but now you it’s a very common thing that people just learn in different ways. My school was not very accomodating (also because I didn’t know that was the problem and neither did they), they put me into a learning support class and just made me feel stupid when I wasn’t.
6. What age did you find out you were dyslexic?
I found out when I was nearly finished with my degree. I was working as a receptionist and every time people gave me their phone numbers I would write it wrong or they would spell out the names and I would write down the wrong letters. At first I thought I just need to get used to the job, but then realised I’ve been doing this my whole life, how have I never noticed. I thought I was just bad with spelling and numbers. It made a lot of sense after.
7. What did you study at uni ?
I did fashion design and then I moved into communications, majoring in public relations and marketing.
What I love about Ela is that she is so humble in what she does and if I had not shared my struggle with her I would have never known that she was struggling with it as well . So sometimes it pays to share your struggling because you may compare yourself to someone who has the same struggles you do and even if they don’t everyone struggles with something.
Inspire and be inspired.